Wednesday, May 30, 2012

God Did!


Gordo has many great doctors and 9 times out of 10 ... they are "spot on" with regard to treatment. Yesterday ... was the 1 time his Urologist was wrong.
Without getting into all the specifics ...  we were given instructions by his doc. After an hour ... I just knew something was very wrong ... I told Gordo ... so sorry dad, but we are going to the ER. He reluctantly agreed.
Needless to say ... it was absolutely the right move. His bladder was not draining at all through his cath ... so he started to swell. Thank God the folks at Methodist recognized what was happening and quickly ... handled it. 
Don't want to think about what would have happened if we had waited much longer.
Within 10 minutes Gordo was singing to the nurses. But the sweetest part was him looking up at me saying ... Pooker Annie ... you saved my life again. 
"No dad ... God did".
Have a great day my friends!

Tuesday, May 29, 2012

Zapped!!!!!

Thanks to all the wonderful folks at Methodist West Hospital. We had a scare with Gordo this morning and the people in the ER were amazing. 
We are home now ... dad is napping and doing much better. Pooker Annie is so happy he's ok, but is emotionally zapped. 
Have a great week my friends!

Sunday, May 27, 2012

Just Jumpers

I don't get out much anymore, so in an effort to remain the "social butterfly" that I am ... I joined an online gaming league about 6 months ago. We play cards, dice and a variety of other games. You sign up for "tournaments" through out the day and winners earn BUXX that can be used to buy various item, etc. But the best part is meeting and chatting with folks from all over the world. Yes ... sometimes I meet some loonies ... but most members are legitimate nice folks.
Most of them know all about Gordo and many read my blog ... so they also know that he is a huge Celtic's fan.
These morning I received an email from one of the Hosts (people who run these tournaments). She dedicated a tour for Gordo today at 12:45. It just touched my heart and brought tears to my eyes. This beautiful person (from Iowa) thought of my dad.
I just had to share the page she created ... because it's so amazing.
Love you Letz (her screen name).
P.S. The league's name is "Just Jumpers" ... quite appropriate.
http://www.myleague.com/thejustjumpers/tournament/578264

Friday, May 25, 2012

Titanic


Gordo watched a documentary about the Titanic last week. It was their opinion that the best Titanic movie was " A Night to Remember" made in 1958. Dad strongly disagreed. He says the Titanic movie starring Barbara Stanwyck was "by far" the best. Needless to say he's become obsessed about watching it.
Yay! Pooker Annie found a copy and he's watching it now.
BTW .. It won the Academy Award for Writing Original Screenplay in 1953.
Whew ... thank goodness!
Have a super weekend my friends!

Wednesday, May 23, 2012

Whistleville

For those who do not know ... Gordo has Klebsiella pneumoniae which is a bacterial organism that is responsible for causing pneumonia, sepsis, and urinary tract infections. He has had all three. With elderly folks it can cause mental confusion, fatigue, loss of appetite, etc. 
Most recently he has been very confused ... so when he decided yesterday to share memories ... I stopped what I was doing and just listened. The old guy has a ton of stuff in his vault.
These are just a few that he told me about.

"Whistleville" was a neighborhood in South Norwalk, Connecticut. Where Gordo grew up. A large number of Hungarian immigrants settled along the railroad which ran from New York City to New Haven. Because of many curves in the tracks, the trains found it necessary to sound their whistles as they went through the area, thus the name "Whistleville".
Well in this small town ... dad's house was the last " English" aka "American" owned home left. The rest were occupied and owed by immigrants. His dad would get furious when the Hungarians would refer to his family as English. He would say "We are Americans"!
Side note: Dad would marry my mom 20 years later. Her family came from Budapest Hungary and actually lived in "Whistleville" too.
That lead us to the next topic ... about the English ships going back and forth to India. The ship's captian would say "port outward, starboard home" when the sun was behind them ... making it a more pleasurable journey ... without the sun in their eyes. Thus the acronymn and ultimately the word ... POSH.
I'll spare all of you the content from the next 2 hours of stories ... but Gordo had a REALLY good day and I enjoyed listening to him.
Listen to our old folks ... they have amazing stories to tell ... if we give them some time to share them.

Monday, May 21, 2012

Patience

Tonight I made Gordo his ... favorite ... pork chops.
Asked him ... How were they dad? He says OK ... but you could have cut the pieces up smaller.
Really? Really?
So I just snapped and said ... next time I'll put them in a blender ... so you can sip them through a straw!
He just chuckled and said ... Oh ... Pooker Annie!
Then he was back to his Celtic's game.
God grant me patience ... but ... please hurry.

Merci beaucoup

I just had to stop and thank my wonderful hubby and my amazing sister for making it possible for me to care for Gordo. Without both of them I would go completely insane.
Yes ... I elected to take on my role as care giver ... and I have given up a lot ... but ... they have too.
Mikey relinquished his Master bedroom suite, took on all fincial burdens and has NEVER once complained. I love him so much!
Liz comes over every Wednesday night and gives up every Sunday ... so I can get out of the house. Plus she has been here for EVERY Boston Celtics game durning the playoffs ... while holding down a full time job ... that she has to be at by 6:30am each day. I love her so much!
Even though we all know taking care of dad is absolutely the right thing to do ... it's still a life altering experience with a lot of personal sacrifices.
I am blessed with the two BEST friends in the world!
"Merci beaucoup" - Since none of us have the time to go to Paris ... might as well speak a little French. lol

Saturday, May 19, 2012

Colossal


Well ... I was just informed by Gordo that the lunch I just made him (a tuna melt) was a "colossal" failure! 
Not an ... "I really didn't care for it or I don't like tuna ... but a colossal failure!
Lucky for him I have a sense of humor and was not holding a baseball bat ... lol. So I just said ... Well your heinous ... I'll have the chef beheaded. He's half listening to me ... so he says "Pooker Annie ... that's a good idea"
Calgon ... take me away!
Oh ... I am away ... in BIZZARO WORLD!
BTW ... I brought him a dark chocolate candy bar to make up for my colossal failure ;).

Friday, May 18, 2012

Don't Be Ridiculous!


Gordo and I made our monthly trip to Sugar Land to see his urologist. He wore his Boston Red Sox attire ... which always seems to spark up all kinds of conversations.  Yesterday it was with Jeremy Blanchard (no relation) ... a male nurse. He knows dad is from New England ... so he asks ... "Mr. Cave ... why aren't you a Yankee's fan?"  Gordo looks at this guy ... like he's crazy and snaps back ... " Young man ... isn't it obvious? ... I'm a Red Sox fan ... that's why!".
OK ... then. I bet Mr Blanchard will think twice before he asks such a ridiculous question. lol
That father of mine is something special.
Have a great weekend my friends!

Wednesday, May 16, 2012

Pacifier Needed


Parents ... Remember back when your toddler would wake up in the middle of the night ... not because they were sick, hungry or wet .. but they were simply wide awake and ready to play?
Well ... I got to re-live the days of yesteryear ... this morning at 3am. Only one little difference. My toddler is 82 and calling me ... because ... he's announces "It's time to get up". 
I tell Gordo ... It's 3:00! He says ... well then ... it's time to get up. I feel like choking him, but just say ... Dad it's 3 o'clock in the morning! He tilts his head and lets out a chuckle. Oops! Sorry Pooker Annie ... I thought it was the afternoon, but since you're here ... can I get up and read my book? Sure Dad.
I went back to bed for a couple of hours and when I re-entered his room ... he looks up and says ... OK ... I'm ready to go to sleep now. 
OMG ... how am I going to get him back on schedule?
Do they sell adult pacifers?
God love him!

Monday, May 14, 2012

New Pair of Shoes


I had an amazing Mother's day with Sarah in Corpus Christi.
When I got home ... Gordo had a present and this note for me.
Gives a whole new meaning to " Momma needs a new pair of shoes".

Thursday, May 10, 2012

Green Means Go!


Was greeted this morning with Gordo's version of "When Irish Eyes Are Smiling".
His way of sending good karma to the Boston Celtics.
Game 6 tonight!
Green means ... Go!

Wednesday, May 9, 2012

Water Girl

Got an early morning wake-up call this morning from Gordo.
Pooker Annie ... my bag is full. He's referring to his night time drainage bag ... which ... by the way ... can't possibly be full. It's huge because it's meant for long periods of usage. Plus it's like pulling teeth to make him drink enough water each day.
So ... I can't wait to see what he's talking about. I enter his room and OMG! It is full! Gosh Dad! What the heck? He snaps " It's all the Celtic's fault!" I am going to be sorry for asking ... but ... do. Why dad? ... because they lost? He looks at me like "I'M" crazy and says ... Hell no! That's just a game! It's because Elizabeth (my sister) made me drink some water everytime the Celtics made a basket. Oh ... I see dad. Then I jokingly say "Well she should have make you drink two more times ... they would have won". He replies ... Never thought of it that way ... Pooker Annie ... you're so clever.
OK Aunt liz .aka " Water Girl".. "Get it Together! Heheheh!
Bring on the "Ozarka" for Thursday's game!

Thursday, May 3, 2012

The Rest of the Story


Today I heard a Gordo story for the first time. He was talking basketball with my son, Ricky. They were talking about ... how they favor Memphis over the Clippers. Ricky just likes the team, but Dad pipes up and announces his reason ... that he was friends with their head coach ... Lionel Hollins.
OK ... can't wait to hear this one.
Back in 1988 ... Gordo lived in Phoenix, AZ. He worked for the "Bureau of Land Management" ... an agency for the federal government. He befriended a young black man who had just graduated from college. Through their many conversations ... dad asked him if he knew who Bessie Smith was. This young man did not. 
FYI ... Bessie Smith was "The Empress of the Blues". She was a black woman who was the most popular female blues singer of the 1920s and 1930s
So ...  dad gave him the tape to listen to. He took the tape home and young man's father heard him playing it and asked his son ... how he learned about Bessie. He tells his dad ... "some old white guy from work". His dad was so impressed that he wanted to meet him, so his son invited Gordo to a Phoenix's Sun's game. Great front row seats ... where the owners sit. What my dad didn't know ... was ... the young man's dad was Lionel Hollins and (at that time) the Sun's assistant coach.
Needless to say ... Dad attended many more games after that.
That explains why Gordo has a gazillion Phoenix Suns shirts.
Now... you and I know ... the rest of the story.

Wednesday, May 2, 2012

No. 34

Never doubt the power of ... 
A clean jersey ... washed with ... Cheer.
A screaming fan from Katy, TX ... Liz and the wonderful number ... 34. 


Needless to say ... Gordo is lovin life!


Tuesday, May 1, 2012

I Love This and NY


You all know my feelings about loving our elderly. My dear friend Dallas shared this today and it demands a read.
Thank you Dallas. This touched my heart.

From a NY cab driver. ..

I arrived at the address and honked the horn. After waiting a few minutes I honked again. Since this was going to be my last ride of my shift I thought about just driving away, but instead I put the car in park and walked up to the door and knocked.. 'Just a minute', answered a frail, elderly voice. I could hear something being dragged across the floor.

After a long pause, the door opened. A small woman in her 90's stood before me. She was wearing a print dress and a pillbox hat with a veil pinned on it, like somebody out of a 1940's movie.

By her side was a small nylon suitcase. The apartment looked as if no one had lived in it for years. All the furniture was covered with sheets.

There were no clocks on the walls, no knickknacks or utensils on the counters. In the corner was a cardboard
box filled with photos and glassware.

'Would you carry my bag out to the car?' she said. I took the suitcase to the cab, then returned to assist the woman.

She took my arm and we walked slowly toward the curb.

She kept thanking me for my kindness. 'It's nothing', I told her.. 'I just try to treat my passengers the way I would want my mother to be treated.'

'Oh, you're such a good boy, she said. When we got in the cab, she gave me an address and then asked, 'Could you drive
through downtown?'

'It's not the shortest way,' I answered quickly..

'Oh, I don't mind,' she said. 'I'm in no hurry. I'm on my way to a hospice.

I looked in the rear-view mirror. Her eyes were glistening. 'I don't have any family left,' she continued in a soft voice..'The doctor says I don't have very long.' I quietly reached over and shut off the meter.

'What route would you like me to take?' I asked.

For the next two hours, we drove through the city. She showed me the building where she had once worked as an elevator operator.

We drove through the neighborhood where she and her husband had lived when they were newlyweds She had me pull up in front of a furniture warehouse that had once been a ballroom where she had gone dancing as a girl.

Sometimes she'd ask me to slow in front of a particular building or corner and would sit staring into the darkness, saying nothing.

As the first hint of sun was creasing the horizon, she suddenly said, 'I'm tired.Let's go now'.
We drove in silence to the address she had given me. It was a low building, like a small convalescent home, with a driveway that passed under a portico.

Two orderlies came out to the cab as soon as we pulled up. They were solicitous and intent, watching her every move.
They must have been expecting her.

I opened the trunk and took the small suitcase to the door. The woman was already seated in a wheelchair.

'How much do I owe you?' She asked, reaching into her purse.

'Nothing,' I said

'You have to make a living,' she answered.

'There are other passengers,' I responded.

Almost without thinking, I bent and gave her a hug.She held onto me tightly.

'You gave an old woman a little moment of joy,' she said. 'Thank you.'

I squeezed her hand, and then walked into the dim morning light.. Behind me, a door shut.It was the sound of the closing of a life..

I didn't pick up any more passengers that shift. I drove aimlessly lost in thought. For the rest of that day,I could hardly talk.What if that woman had gotten an angry driver,or one who was impatient to end his shift? What if I had refused to take the run, or had honked once, then driven away?

On a quick review, I don't think that I have done anything more important in my life.

We're conditioned to think that our lives revolve around great moments.

But great moments often catch us unaware-beautifully wrapped in what others may consider a small one.

"PEOPLE MAY NOT REMEMBER EXACTLY
WHAT YOU DID, OR WHAT YOU SAID ~BUT~THEY WILL
ALWAYS REMEMBER HOW YOU MADE THEM
FEEL."

Cheer!

OK folks. I take full responsibility for Boston's loss on Sunday ... because "I " didn't wash Gordo's Celtic's jersey. So I have been told. I'm sure it had nothing to do with Rajon Rondo's benching for bumping the referee.
So I have washed dad's shirt for tonight's game. Even using "Cheer" detergent. 
Boston has a lot riding on my laundry skills ... as Rondo is benched tonight too!
"Cheer" for the Celtics!