Wednesday, April 2, 2014

A Surreal Day

Well my friends … I went today to visit Gordo’s grave site for the 1st time.
It was surreal … as another family was having a funeral. They had the 21- gun salute and "Taps" playing.
Seeing his name on a headstone was harder than I had anticipated it would be.
Damn it! I miss his sweet presence so much.
Did not realize … just how much … until today.
I know he had a fabulous 83 years of life … but the void left for me is more than I thought it could be.
All I know to say is ... to love and cherish your folks who are still here and thank God for your memories ... if they have already gone to Heaven.
Love you Daddy!
Your adoring … Pooker Annie



Thursday, February 20, 2014

A Jerry McGuire Moment

Do you ever have a “Jerry McGuire” moment?
The one … that puts it out there?
Places your soul ahead of your ambitions? 
Well … my friends … that is what I am about to write. So if you are amongst the safe … and road … more traveled… please unfriend me now.
I am OVER ... skilled nursing facilities and rehab centers (aka Nursing homes) and grown children … who haphazardly place them there. 
YOU really think that by spending $6000 plus a month to “kennel” your folks … that they are taken care of properly?
This might be good for you … but … without your constant intervention… this can be catastrophic for your loved one.
PLEASE … PLEASE… PLEASE … get and stay involved with them daily.
Make sure that their needs are being met.
YOU or your loved one is footing the bill … so … YOU are IN CHARGE … not some employee who says … “we’ll look into that” or … even worse … unresponsive.
YOU ... are your loved one’s BEST Health Advocate!
OK … I feel better and hope some will listen.

Monday, February 3, 2014

Thank Them!

Although … most of you know all about my dad … Gordo. I had an equally wonderful mom … Eileen.
Tomorrow marks the 11th year since she made her way to heaven.
In her honor and Gordo’s … please take the time to tell your folks … if you are still fortunate enough to have them … just how grateful you are. 
Being a parent is a lifelong commitment. 
Some times are great and others more challenging. But … at the end of the day … most parents do the best they can for us. And … for that … my friends … we owe our gratitude and love.
Just … one “loving daughter’s” opinion.
Have a super night!

Thursday, January 30, 2014

Way To Go ... Accessible Home Health Care!








             THESE AMAZING FOLKS HELPED ME TAKE CARE OF GORDO!
NOW I HAVE THE HONOR OF WORKING WITH THEM!












Accessible Home Health Care                       
3111 N University Drive
Suite 625
Coral Springs, FL 33065                                   
Contact: Greg Greenland
Day Phone: 954-341-5600
                                                                                                            For Immediate Release
 




Accessible Home health care names
Houston as its
Franchise of the QUARTER

Coral Springs, FL (January 10, 2014)  -  Today Accessible Home Health Care  announced its national Franchise of the Quarter for the Fourth  Quarter of 2013.

Mirella Salem, President of Accessible Home Health Care the franchisor said, “Our Accessible Home Health Care franchise system has grown tremendously the past 8 years, and we are now over 110 offices nationwide with offices in India and Africa.” 

“It gives me great pleasure to recognize Accessible Home Health Care of Houston as the national “Franchise of The Quarter”.  Randy and Sheree Paramore have grown their operation into a full service provider of both private and Medicare services in their community.  They are a leading provider of both medical and non-medical services in the Houston marketplace, and their commitment to quality care through their Joint Commission Accreditation will ensure they remain in that position.”

“Selecting these individuals and their teams for this prestigious award was a difficult decision indeed, as there are many very deserving franchisees in our system.    Because our caregivers provide AHHC clients Compassionate Care from the Heart, a core value of our organization, it sets us apart.   We are honored to have these dedicated individuals as part of our organization.”



About the company: Accessible Home Health Care of Houston provides high quality care to all age groups, from newborns to seniors, in the comfort of their own homes.  We provide medical and non-medical services through our staff of screened, highly qualified, and compassionate caregivers which includes aides, nurses, and therapists.  Being a full service provider, including services provided to seniors under Medicare, allows us to provide levels of service properly matching the changing needs and desires of our patients and loved ones. For more information about our services please visit us at www.accessiblehouston.com or call   Randy Paramore at 281 859-3516.

Wednesday, January 22, 2014

And the Oscar goes to ...


I read this yesterday.
Although it was written last year…its message is amazing!
Enjoy!

And the Oscar Goes to…
Watching the Oscars on Sunday was quite entertaining. Imagine the vision, creativity, and artistry that it takes for scores of people to come together to make a film that captivates the country by bringing a story to life! The coveted gold statue represents the pinnacle of one’s profession, a universally recognizable prize that causes a seasoned actor to forget his acceptance speech or lose her gracefulness while tripping over a ridiculously expensive gown. It made me wonder: What if there were Oscars awarded to the people who influenced healthcare? Here are some suggestions for the most deserving:
Best Picture: an award for radiologists viewing the film of a cancer-free survivor
Actor/Actress in a Leading Role: the oncologists who don’t let their patients see them cry after having to give a terminal diagnosis
Actor/Actress in a Supporting Role: the nurse who provides comfort to the parents of a dying child
Best Adapted Screenplay: the rehabilitation team members who help survivors find new life again after stroke
Cinematography: for persons who capture the inspiring moments of the Special Olympics
Costume design: the prosthetists, orthotists, and biomechanical engineers who create both function and beauty to clothe persons needing artificial limbs
Directing: the heads of national organizations that lead the way in research and education in a specialty area
Best Makeup: the funeral home directors who help make our loved ones look their best for the final goodbye
Best Visual Effects: the burn specialists and plastic surgeons who reconstruct the facial features of a firefighter or war veteran after severe burns
Best Sound Mixing: the audiologists and manufacturers of hearing devices that help us to listen and attend to the sounds around us
Best Film Editing: the skilled surgeons who remove the bad parts and recreate our inward parts so that our life picture is the best it can be
Best Original Song: the one sung by the double lung transplant survivors, like Charity Tillman-Dick, and made possible by the lung transplant team
I wish that we gave such awards to the people who make a real difference in the lives of so many. There are hundreds of unsung heroes of healthcare who influence our world but go unnoticed. When you come across one, won’t you tell them how much they are valued and appreciated? They may never win an Oscar, but without them we couldn’t shine.
Dr. Mauk's Boomer Blog June 16th 2013


Tuesday, January 7, 2014

SANDWICH GENERATION

Given that many of us are in the “Sandwich Generation” … meaning that we have our kids and/or our folks living with us.
 Someone FINALLY … GOT it!
Thanks Lennar!



Thursday, January 2, 2014

Laugh a little!


I read this this the other day and it sort of validated something that Gordo and I did daily ... as I'm a HUGE proponent of "Laughter Therapy"!  It's just good for the soul.

Laughter May Be as Effective as Meds in Dementia Treatment
When it comes to dementia, a big belly laugh may be the best medicine. New research indicates that laughter may be just as effective as antipsychotic medications for reducing anxiety in elderly people with dementia.
Alzheimer’s disease and other dementias have no truly effective treatments, a fact that has compelled experts and laymen alike to seek alternative ways of treating these diseases.  
A recent report, aptly named the SMILE study, was conducted by a group of Australian researchers, who set out to discover whether humor could improve the lives of people living with dementia.
Over the course of three years, humor therapists were tasked with getting 400 dementia-stricken people to giggle more often. Their efforts produced an impressive result: a 20 percent reduction in anxiety – the same amount as a typical antipsychotic medication, according to lead researcher, Lee-Fay Low.
Since agitation and anxiety are often the root causes of outbursts and wandering in people with dementia, being able to reduce these feelings would have a positive impact on the lives of those with the disease and their family members.


Wednesday, December 18, 2013

God's Calling?

Yesterday I went to Methodist West Hospital (where Gordo used to go) to see one of our patients who is also a special friend of our family.
 “Tis the season” … so I bought one of those silly reindeer headbands, picked up a poinsettia for my friend and filled my work bag with candy canes.  Yes … I have no shame!
I took the elevator to the 6th floor … holding my head (with antlers) high … hoping that my emotions would not get the better of me … as this was the floor dad ALWAYs went to and where he passed away two months ago.
Luckily my friend’s room was right next to the nurse’s station ... so I went directly in. We chatted for about 30 minutes. She started getting tired, so her nurse and I helped get my 80 ish years old friend and her healing hip back into bed.
I passed back by the nurses’ station … handed them all candy canes and thanked them for the job that they do. Then it occurred to me ... to (personally) thank them for caring for my dad over the past few years. Then one of the nurses said … “We thought you were Mr. Cave’s daughter. So sorry for your loss.” WOW! They actually remembered!
Feeling rather warm and grateful in my heart … I decided to stop at the ER on my way out and thank them as well.
Got nothing but smiles as I walked through the halls … then I had to chuckle … remembering … that it was due to the crazy headband on my head.
I reached the ER nursing station. One of the nurses looked up and said … “You are one of Mr. Cave’s daughters … right? He wore those baseball caps and loved Lady Gaga.”  I was stunned … told her that he had passed, but wanted to thank her and all the others who took such great care of him. Explained my new career in home healthcare … handed her some candy canes and was about to leave … until she asked me to wait. She picked up the phone and told the person on the other line to come to the desk … Mr. Cave’s daughter has something to tell you.
The next thing I knew … I was surrounded by several nurses who shared Gordo stories and gave their condolences.
My eyes began welling up with tears … so I told them that I had to go. As I turned around to leave … one of them said … “Cora … I do believe you found your calling”.

I think that perhaps she’s right. We’ll see.

“Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase.”



Thursday, December 12, 2013

The Truth



The Truth About Medicare!*
Some widely held beliefs about Medicare are misguided or wrong.
 Here, we separate fact from fiction:

Myth: Medicare provides cheap health care.
Fact: It’s true that most people don’t have to pay monthly premiums on Medicare Part A (which covers inpatient stays in hospitals, skilled nursing facilities, hospice and home care. But you will have to meet a deductible before your Part A coverage takes effect.
Myth: Everybody pays the same premium for Part B (which covers doctor visits).
Fact: For the vast majority of Medicare beneficiaries, that’s true (and for them the monthly premium this year has been $104.90).
Myth: Everybody pays the same premium for Part D (which covers prescription drugs.)
Fact: There are 31 Part D prescription drug plans offered for sale in the Houston metropolitan area for consumers that have original Medicare. These Part D drug plans have different costs and coverage associated with each one. It is a good idea to investigate these thoroughly to determine which one is right for you.
Myth: Medicare automatically covers everything.
Fact: Not true, it is a good idea to investigate the coverage you need and what is offered to determine what coverage is best to meet your individual needs.
Myth: You should sign up for Medicare as soon as possible even if you’re working.
Fact: When it comes to Part A, which covers hospitalization, that’s probably a good move. As for Part B, which covers doctors’ visits, the federal government suggests that you wait to sign up, since your at-work insurance is still the primary payer for those medical bills. Visit the Social Security Administration’s website (www.ssa.gov) to sign up, or call the SSA at 1-800-772-1213.
Myth: Medicare covers all hospital stays equally.
Fact: Unfortunately, whether a person is classified as an actual “inpatient” or only “under observation” can make a huge difference in the amount he or she may be responsible for. To qualify for Skilled Nursing Facility care, a person must have been a patient in a hospital for three consecutive days. But if that patient is only in the hospital “for observation,” he or she may be liable for additional charges during the stay – as well as all follow-up skilled nursing facility care. To help prevent this happening, ask the patient’s doctor, and the hospital, to clarify your status.
Myth: When it comes to prescription drug costs, you can’t get help from anywhere but Medicaid.

Fact: Many pharmaceutical companies have Prescription Assistance Programs (PAPs) to help qualified patients pay for medications. Click here https://www.medicare.gov/pharmaceutical-assistance-program/Index.aspx to see what medicines are covered under these programs. You can also check here https://www.medicare.gov/pharmaceutical-assistance-program/state-programs.aspx to see if your state has a Pharmaceutical Assistance Program.

Friday, December 6, 2013

Aging in Place

I continue to get my “Learn On” with regard to our aging population.
One of the buzz phrases I keep hearing is … “Aging in Place”.
What that basically means is … the ability to live in one's own home and community safely, independently, and comfortably, regardless of age, income, or ability level.
There are several types of proactive and re active home modifications that might provide folks with more options and abilities to stay in their own homes longer without having to move to an assisted living facility, a family member’s home, a personal care home or a nursing home.
This this article was a good read.
Gives us all something to think about.

Wednesday, December 4, 2013

Do it NOW!

I spent a lot of time today with a director of an Alzheimer’s care facility.
The biggest takeaway was something I (personally) did and just assumed many knew about. WRONG!
Please … please … please have your folks or loved ones who are getting old … sign a Medical Power of Attorney while they are lucid and understand. Without this you cannot even talk to their physician if and when the patient can no longer make rational decisions about their own healthcare.
You can’t place them in the hospital, home, or converse in any medical conversations about them … unless you have a legal MEDICAL POWER OF ATTORNEY!
Now this is about Texas … so please check out your state or country and its regulations.
I am not an attorney … so rather than giving advice based on my own person experience or what others have told me … I STRONGLY suggest that you click this link http://www.dads.state.tx.us/news_info/publications/handbooks/advancedirectives.html.
I can PROMISE you… it will be worth a bit of work to get these things handled NOW!

God love our old folks!

Friday, November 22, 2013

Missing Him

I was at the nail salon yesterday and made a comment to my nail lady ... that I had not cut my hair since Gordo moved in … almost 3 years ago.
When all of a sudden another customer (who was having a pedicure) yells out. “What is your dad’s name?” I was rather shocked and replied… “Well  … he is now deceased, but his name is Gordon”. This woman get a huge smile on her face and exclaims “Mr. Cave! He loves Lady Gaga, the Boston Celtics and wears those cute baseball caps”.  OK folks … how weird is this? I simply asked ... “ma'am  … how do you know my father?”. She answers … Oh! ... I have been his night time nurse for years at Methodist Hospital. I just love him and your sister Liz . I was there the night he went to heaven”.
WOW! How nice that she really did care about him.
I guess Gordo was loved by more folks then I even knew.
He sure is in Heaven … but I do miss him so.
Remember … to be kind and patient with our “Seasoned Citizens”.

Wednesday, November 20, 2013

Medicare A and Home Health Care

Fact #2
Did you know that Medicare A …in most cases will pay 100% of home health care costs … if there is a medical need for an elder who is no longer able to drive?

All they need is a doctor’s order from their primary care doctor or one of their specialists to email or fax an order … stating … for example … that the patient needs their blood checked each week … requires some physical therapy … to help them maneuver around with their walker … and WHAM … the next thing you know ... a RN is at the home assessing and assuring care on a regular basis.

Remember ... to be kind and patient with our “Seasoned Citizens”.

Tuesday, November 19, 2013

80 Plus

I am absolutely amazed at how (little) folks REALLY know about choices and/or options that our elderly have or the false understanding of what they think they do.
So having said that … I’d like to share daily facts with you.
Should anyone read these and want more (in depth) info … just leave a post and I will get back with you.

FACT #1
Adults over age 80 are the fastest growing segment of the population; most will spend years dependent on others for the most basic needs.
This is ... US … ladies and gentlemen.

So ... Get out a pen … and stay tuned.

And always remember … to be kind and patient with our “Seasoned Citizens”.


Saturday, November 16, 2013

Guardian Angels

What should I do after my journey with Gordo?
One would think that I’d be happy to go back to life as it was 3 years ago.
Easier said than done … my friends. In fact (for me) down right impossible. My life will never be the same. Heck … I will never be the same.
All the things I have learned … the people who I’ve met … all my experiences, etc. led me to a career decision. Almost a mission … really. That is to reach out to as many people as I can to help our elderly have the best quality of life in their “Autumn Years”. .. while assisting the people (who love them) in  making that a reality.
My 25 plus years in advertising sales, marketing and management affords me the experience of effective communication and drive. So … with my passion for the wellbeing of our seniors … compiled with my skill set … it really was a “no brainer”.
Home Health Care!
Because of this service … (covered 100% with his Medicare A) Gordo was able to live with me for the few years that he did. I am absolutely convinced that without their care … the quality of his final years would not have been what they were. He would have been in and out of the hospital 3 times as much. But instead he was in his home … surrounded by loved ones and stayed relatively healthy during much of that time.
In his memory and because I want to help others in the same situations … I am going to keep this blog going. Only now … instead of fun stories about Dad … my hope is to share information that I have learned and will learn as my journey continues. Only now … I have a guardian angels (Gordo and Toby) to help guide me.
Love much … Cora aka Pooker Annie

    


Obituary

I was asked to write an obit. This is what I came up with.

Memorial Service for Gordon Cave
October 26, 2013— Our dear sweet dad and friends to many, left this life he so loved on October 5, 2013. He lived a wonderful 83 years.
Preceded by our mother, Eileen Jeffries Cave, his parents, Gordon Powell Cave Sr. and Helen M. Casey Cave. He is survived by his daughter Cora and (her husband) Michael Blanchard, his daughter Elizabeth McDonley, 5 grandchildren Amber, Ricky and wife Andrea, Stephanie, Sarah and Robby. Followed by 5 great-grandchildren Jaclyn, Avery, Presley, Owen and Jared. Gordon was a treasure to his parents and an only child who excelled academically and an honor’s student in high school who graduated from Columbia University with a History degree. Having been a bachelor for years, he met and fell in love with our mother. They had two little girls whom he absolutely cherished.
His career began at Macletts, owned a Baskin Robbins in Darien CT., and when Gordon and Eileen decided to move to Houston in 1973, they were both successful realtors. Divorced later, he moved to Phoenix AZ where he became an employee of the Bureau of Land Management and ultimately retired.
Gordon returned to Houston in retirement to be near his beloved daughters. He shared his apartment at Park Shadows with his best friend, Toby, his little black pug. He met many friends both at Park Shadows and the Unitarian Fellowship where he was a member and former Trustee.
His last years were living with his daughter Cora and her husband, Michael. He was a sweet, witty gentleman who read widely, was knowledgeable about world affairs, the opera, the theatre, sports, jazz and movies.
He leaves a legacy of love, optimism, light-hearted gaiety and learning.
Thanks for being our wonderful Daddy!
Love forever!

Sunday, October 27, 2013

A Little Black Dog

A LITTLE BLACK DOG

I wonder if Christ had a little black dog,
all curly and wooly like mine,
With two silky ears, and nose round and wet,
Two eyes brown and tender that shine?

I'm sure if He had, that that little black dog,
Knew right from the first he was God,
That he needed no proof that Christ was divine,
But just worshipped the ground where He trod.
I'm afraid that He hadn't because I have read,
How he prayed in the garden alone,
For all of His friends and disciples had fled,
Even Peter, the one called a "Stone".

And oh, I am sure that that little black dog,
With a true heart so tender and warm
Would never have left Him to suffer alone
But creeping right under his arm;

Would have licked those dear fingers in agony clasped,
And counting all favors but loss,
When they took Him away, would have trotted behind,
And followed Him right to the Cross.
 

Wednesday, October 23, 2013

Gordo's Memorial Service

Dear friends,
I have received inquiries about services for Dad aka Gordo. We will celebrate his life on Saturday, October 26th @ 5:00pm at …
The  UNITARIAN FELLOWSHIP OF HOUSTON 1504 Wirt Road Houston, Texas 77055
713.686.5876